How Resilient Couples Build Successful Relationships – 5 Keys
Do you wonder if your relationship has what it takes to be a successful relationship?
Some have stopped believing that a romantic relationship can make it “till death.”
After all, divorce rates have skyrocketed and breakups are as common as the corner cafe being sold out of cinnamon bagels.
Here’s the thing, even the bagel-less corner cafe has it all wrong when it plays those songs about love being all you need.
Successful relationships undoubtedly have love woven into them, but the “till death” couples don’t rely solely on the feeling of love. Despite popular lyrics, there’s more to establishing successful relationships than leaning on a mere feeling.
A big part of it is about building on what you already have. Here are the keys.
1. Communicate Only in the Key of C
Like most people, it’s likely that you’ve heard more than one relationship expert emphasize how important communication is to successful relationships.
And, they’re right.
To really drive this point home, think of effective communication as using only skills that start with the letter C. Be clear, confident, and controlled. Whether it’s managing conflict, discussing the budget, or talking about what you need in the relationship, communicate in the key of C.
Couples who make it to the “till death” point understand effective communication. And further still, they make a choice to put it into practice every single day.
2. Understand that It Takes Three to Tango
Before you met your partner, you were your own individual person. So were they. When you became a couple, it’s only natural to assume that you simply added a partner to your life.
Really, when you met your partner and started a romance, you created a third party. The relationship itself became that third entity in your life.
Couples with successful relationships respect that their relationship requires care to stay alive. This means tend to yourself, your partner, and the relationship with your partner.
3. Nurture Relationship Rituals
Little habits that you establish in your relationship have the power to create distance or closeness between the two of you. On a daily basis, couples in successful relationships define deliberate rituals.
To be more specific, it’s vital to connect with your partner during times of transition. Actually, it can become the glue in your relationship.
So, acknowledge each other in your comings and goings. Kiss, hug, or offer an encouraging word before you part. Remember to stop what you’re doing to greet your partner when you see each other after being apart. Go on dates. Stay connected throughout the day and give the heads up when you’ll be unavailable.
4. Commit to Vulnerability
Successful relationships are made up of two people who commit to being vulnerable to each other. Being vulnerable to your partner means that you don’t put up walls or figurative hoops for them to jump through.
After you’ve been hurt, it’s an innate reaction to sort of withdraw from being emotionally close to someone else. Make the effort to practice forgiveness, holding on to resentment does no good for you, your partner and certainly not the relationship. Be willing to let go and move forward. In other words, don’t keep score.
Couples who remain emotionally open and vulnerable to one another tend to rebound from life’s setbacks quickly.
5. Embrace Hope together
No matter your status, life is bound to deliver you some hardship at one point in time. During trials, many couples fall apart because they weren’t connected to one another enough to make it through.
A key element to sticking together and being resilient is simply to have hope. Encourage and support one another during the hard moments and hope for the best.
Rather than focusing on shortcomings and failures, put the emphasis on the good that can come from challenges. Practice empathy with each other and shift your mindset to one of positivity.
If you’re ready to become more resilient as a couple, please contact me. Together we can work to establish the aforementioned key elements in your own relationship.