Are You and Your Partner Preparing for a Lifelong Commitment?
Are you ready to marry your partner, but want to make sure you are in alignment on core values and have a solid foundation to build from before the big day? Are you concerned that you may disagree on significant issues, such as parenting or finances, and want to discuss your views and values in a respectful, empathetic way? You may want to make sure you are on the right track and learn the skills needed to enjoy a lasting marriage. Are you excited to marry your best friend and desire ongoing intimacy, trust and passion?
Preparing for marriage can be a thrilling and hopeful experience, but it can also be a frightening one. You may feel confident in your bond with your partner, but wonder about the conflicts that you may encounter down the road. Maybe you wonder if your communication patterns are healthy, especially if you’ve already noticed an increase in arguments or tension as your wedding day approaches. You might be experiencing increased anxiety and crave some quiet, private time for you and your partner to just sit and talk. Perhaps some new conflicts have popped up in recent months, and you want to communicate in a supportive, loving way.
Many Couples Can Benefit From Premarital Counseling
It is very common to experience some nervousness and anxiety as you prepare to marry your partner. Some individuals even second-guess their decision or experience “cold feet.” It is so important for couples to properly prepare for their lifelong commitment, and understand there is nothing wrong with you or your relationship if you want to seek premarital counseling. If you are questioning some aspects of your relationship, especially before a marriage, you might be wondering how you and your partner will be able come to common ground and sustain a healthy relationship that can last a lifetime. Or, you may feel as though you love your partner more than anyone, but want to be fully prepared for life and all of its challenges.
It is very common for two people to get swept up in romance only to feel disappointment and frustration when real life – with mortgages, children, careers, illness, etc – makes things complicated. Couples may face some moments of disagreement and struggle. You and your partner are unique individuals, and you won’t agree on everything for the rest of your lives. Thankfully, you can establish a firm foundation for your marriage. With the help of premarital counseling, you and your partner can feel confident in your ability to nurture your mutual love and care for each other even in the most difficult of times.
Premarital Counseling Can Help You and Your Partner Build A Lasting Foundation
Whether you are feeling some strain as your wedding day approaches or you just want to set aside time to clear the air, premarital counseling can help you and your partner resolve conflict and come to an understanding about what each of you wants and needs from your relationship. In sessions, you can sit with your partner and discuss your needs, values and hopes for the future. As an objective, compassionate third party, I can help you and your partner identify points of disagreement, recognize harmful communication patterns and lay the groundwork for effective communication and cooperation in the future.
During premarital counseling, you’ll have the time to discuss your expectations for your marriage and the issues that may arise in your years together. For example, you and your partner can discuss the ways you view children and parenting or how you want to allocate finances and responsibilities in the home. I can help you both delve into these important questions and address any areas of disagreement. I can also help you develop healthy communication skills so that you can feel confident in your ability to navigate new challenges with love and friendship.
You and your partner are unique individuals, which means that your relationship is unique as well. I will help you work together so that you can build on your strengths and develop the relationship that you and your partner want. You can also learn new things about yourself and each other and discover new avenues toward personal and collective growth.
I have been married for 26 years, and I know that marriage can be beautiful, challenging and deeply fulfilling. Through premarital counseling, you can prepare yourself for a loving, joyful lifetime with your partner. Although every relationship hits roadblocks, you can develop the deep, compassionate bond that you need to overcome obstacles and preserve the passion and connection that brought you together. By taking a little time now to authentically communicate and connect on your values and life vision, you and your partner can start your life together with positivity, peace and a unified path forward.
You may believe that premarital counseling can help you and your partner strengthen your marriage, but still have questions or concerns…
We are so busy with wedding planning. How will we have time for premarital counseling?
Planning a wedding can be exhausting. In fact, you may feel as though you and your partner rarely get a moment to talk about anything else. Premarital counseling can offer you the space you need to focus on your relationship and life after the ceremony. In sessions, you can share all of your thoughts, worries and concerns about the future without any fear of judgment. You can take a breath and reconnect.
Talking about some of these issues with a stranger will be embarrassing.
Relationship issues can feel very private, and I understand if you are hesitant to share certain aspects of your relationship. However, please know that I will never judge you, your partner or your relationship for anything you share during sessions. I am an objective, trained professional. I can guide you through the trickiest topics so that both you and your partner feel respected and heard.
Nothing is really wrong in our relationship. Why should we go to therapy?
As you plan your wedding, everything might feel very exciting and harmonious. If nothing is troubling or concerning in your relationship, that is wonderful! Premarital counseling is not only for couples with worries or conflict. Rather, it can help you prepare for moments of conflict or confusion that may arise in your lives together. Discussing your values, needs and hopes now can help your relationship stay as strong as it is now through the decades you will spend together.
You can lay the foundation for a loving, supportive marriage. If you are ready to create a lasting bond, I invite you to call 561-441-9933 for a free phone consultation. I am happy to answer any questions you have about premarital counseling and my practice.